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Social Issues It's time for people to rethink this crap

ToyBoxOrphan

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#1
One of the things I hated most in school was the way administrators and staff would handle conflicts by insisting that everyone just get along. Nope. I don't like that person and even if I did, they don't like me. I'm not required to get along with someone who is treating me like shit. Yes, a lot of these shooters experienced bullying in school, but a lot of them were really fucking weird (way weirder than I ever was and I was goth and a self-proclaimed Satanist in the mid-90s) so it's not a big surprise people didn't want to be around them. Not being friends with people that end up massacring others sounds like a really solid self-preservation technique to me and I'd never recommend anyone ignores their intuition.

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Frigg!

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#2
Speaking as a former school outcast, the last thing I wanted was anyone trying to be "nicer" to me. Please don't invade my space, you've done enough, thankyouverymuch. And I'm not going to believe you're being generally nice after all the not nice, so please don't waste your time.

I'm happy here with my book and a handful of other outcasts, who understand what "nice" really is and accept people for who they are.

Don't call us - we'll call you. ;)
 
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#3
I also was not one of the popular kids. While everyone else was dressing and acting like Madonna or the ultimate YUPPY, I was the one on the fringe. I didn't wear splatter painted clothes or Polo shirts. I was something altogether different. I was in to science-y geeky type '80's things: Buck Rogers, Battlestar Gallactica, etc and my fashion mirrored this.

I'm also extremely introverted and more than a little hermitish. I don't have a ton of friends, I have a few very close people I trust implicitly. Having that trust is a requirement to get in my space. I have a lot of friends on facebook, but the ones I'm close to are aware of who they are.

I also have generalized anxiety. If someone had practiced this approach on me, it would h ave freaked me all the way out. I actually PREFER to be alone, or in the company of someone in whom I have a deeply intimate (not necessarily sexual) connection. I'm not any kind of social butterfly, and I'm happiest when people respect that about me.

In its original form, I think that meme is bullshit and I've been opinionated about it on FB.

For an introvert, I am annoyingly opinionated. :upsidedown:
 
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#6
Speaking as a former school outcast, the last thing I wanted was anyone trying to be "nicer" to me. Please don't invade my space, you've done enough, thankyouverymuch. And I'm not going to believe you're being generally nice after all the not nice, so please don't waste your time.

I'm happy here with my book and a handful of other outcasts, who understand what "nice" really is and accept people for who they are.

Don't call us - we'll call you. ;)
OMG this was so much me. By the time I reached high school I'd given up on trying to be friends with all the asshats I went to school with. I had my peeps and everyone else could go to hell.
 

Frigg!

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#7
By the time I reached high school I'd given up on trying to be friends with all the asshats I went to school with. I had my peeps and everyone else could go to hell.
The day before I started middle schoold my father died, which gave me a very different take on life for that age. As rotten as it was to have the family member who actually understood me taken away abruptly, it taught me that I should save my time for people who give a crap and don't bother pleasing people who just want you to be their sycophant. It's kept me out of a lot of trouble in my life and is a lesson I sure don't regret.
 
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#8
I cannot express how you all are my kind of people. That is, if I were a people person, I'd like to get us all in a room for dinner and conversation. I might be able to work up to that, but generally I prefer being alone most of the time.

On topic, though, the very notion that acting nice to tormentors strikes me (as others have pointed out) as a kind of victim blaming. Those people who have been asschapeaux to me in the past I'd rather not ever encounter again, thank you. And I have outgrown puerile revenge fantasies as well, giving me all the more reason not to see those fools again.
 
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